Pastor James tells us in James 3:17, "Peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of goodness."
It's a biblical principle - but also a principle of life.
What you sow is what you are going to reap.
If you want people to cooperate with you - you must cooperate with them.
If you want people to be nice to you, you've got to be nice to them.
If you want people to compromise with you, you've got to compromise with them.
Whatever you give out - is what you are going to get back.
If you find yourself in conflict, somehow you are giving out part of that.
It takes two for conflict.
So ask yourself, "what did I do?" "What seeds am I planting?"
If you are always planting seeds of griping, complaining, arguing, hassling, and putting down your spouse, guess what? You are going to reap conflict.
Whatever seeds (as James writes) you are planting in your marriage (or in any relationship) is what you are going to grow.
I encourage you today to start planting seeds of peace and compromise. Seek first to understand and then to be understood - and take the initative. Don't wait for them.
When somebody offends you - you go to the Lord - but you also go to them.
Just a thought for a Wednesday